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100 1 $aFinkbeiner, Ann K.,$d1943-
245 10 $aAfter the death of a child :$bliving with loss
through the years /$cAnn K. Finkbeiner.
260 $aNew York :$bFree Press,$cc1996.
300 $axiv, 273 p. ;$c25 cm.
504 $aIncludes bibliographical references (p. 265-273).
520 $aFor a parent, losing a child is the most
devastating event that can occur. Most books on the subject
focus on grieving and recovery, but as most parents agree,
there is no recovery from such a loss. This book examines
the continued love parents feel for their child and the many
poignant and ingenious ways they devise to preserve the
bond. Through detailed profiles of parents, Ann Finkbeiner
shows how new activities and changed relationships with
their spouse, friends, and other children can all help
parents preserve a bond with the lost child. Refusing to
fall back on pop jargon about "recovery" or to offer easy
suggestions or standardized timelines, Finkbeiner's is a
genuine and moving search to come to terms with loss. Her
complex profiles of parents resonate with the honesty and
authenticity of uncomfortable emotions expressed and, most
importantly, shared with others experiencing a similar loss.
Finally, each profile exemplifies the many heroic ways
parents learn to live with their pain, and by so doing,
honor the lives their children should have lived.
650 0 $aBereavement$xPsychological aspects.
650 0 $aGrief.
650 0 $aTeenagers$xDeath$xPsychological aspects.
650 0 $aChildren$xDeath$xPsychological aspects.
650 0 $aLoss (Psychology)
970 01 $tIntroduction
970 11 $l1$tAt First$p1
970 11 $l2$tMarge Ford's Marriage$p24
970 11 $l3$tFathers and Mothers, Husbands and Wives:
Changes in the Marriage$p37
970 11 $l4$tBrandt Jones's Family$p54
970 11 $l5$tBrothers and Sisters, Sons and Daughters:
Changes in the Relationship with Other Children$p63
970 11 $l6$tLeight Johnson and His Fellow Man$p86
970 11 $l7$tJanet Wright's Bad Friends$p94
970 11 $l8$tChanges Toward Other People$p98
970 11 $l9$tChris Reed$p120
970 11 $l10$tOn Guilt$p130
970 11 $l11$tDelores Shoda and the Uncertainty of
Life$p142
970 11 $l12$tJob's Children: Changes Toward God$p150
970 11 $l13$tDiana Moores' World$p173
970 11 $l14$tThe Zero Point : Changes in Perspective$p182
970 11 $l15$tAnne Perkins' Priorities$p198
970 11 $l16$tSurface Ditties and Carpe Diem : Changes in
Priorities$p207
970 11 $l17$tWalter Levin$p219
970 11 $l18$tThe Nature of the Bond$p226
970 11 $l19$tOne Person Now: The Continuing
Trajectory$p244
970 01 $tSuggestions for Further Reading$p265
